Have you built an entire identity around being a victim? Are you compulsively unable to stop from rehashing every petty detail in your life and blaming it on someone else? Have you had an affair with a married man who stayed married even though he told you he was going to leave his wife and you like totally believed him because why would a guy who cheats on his wife lie to you anyway?
YOU MAY BE THE VICTIM OF A NARCISSIST
“Narcissist” comes from the Greek (Narcissus, or Spirit of the Self-Help Books Section). Narcissists are typically people with more self-esteem than you. Narcissists victimize their victims for life by having an affair with them and then moving on. This cripples their victims for life and leaves them unfit to do anything but write about the dangers of narcissism and long for the return of the Phil Donahue Show.
John Gray discovered the term “Narcissist” in 1684 while he was looking for more things that men and women do differently. Since then many Nobel Prize winning physicists have devoted years of their life to studying the issue and found nothing, because they were men, and men suck!
The NHS has recently declared a “Narcissism Epidemic” and warned everyone who’s stupid and whiny to stay indoors, and avoid sneezing near cat covered furniture.
There are easy ways to identify a Narcissist. A Narcissist in the early stages of a relationship is really into you. Then he seems less interested. This may be a sign that the relationship isn’t working out, OR IS THAT JUST WHAT THE NARCISSIST WANTS YOU TO THINK WHILE HE KEEPS PLAYING GAMES WITH YOUR MIND?
If you’re reading this, you already know the answer to that.
Also a Narcissist’s moods change. One day he can be angry, and another day he can be happy. Narcissists also often have noses, eyes and long evil mustaches which they twirl while muttering darkly about their plans to steal all the earth’s diamond reserves IN ORDER TO POWER THEIR NARCISSISM.
Narcissists can be anybody. A schoolteacher. A bus driver. A donut hole puncher. But they’re most likely to be someone you were in a bad relationship with, but was totally not your fault, CAUSE HE WAS A NARCISSIST. And he controlled your mind! And your thoughts! And your dreams! And your pastries!
The only way to break free of a Narcissist’s influence is to talk about him non-stop. Only by spending the next few decades going on about Narcissists, can you finally liberate yourself to have a healthy normal relationship with the pillow next to you in the old age home.
Some therapists will advise you to get on with your life instead. Avoid them because THEY ARE CLEARLY NARCISSISTS. Instead pick a therapist whose conversations with you will help her write a book about how women can identify Narcissists that Oprah might select for her book club. And then you’ll be on TV with her. And then you can write your own book. And won’t that be so much better than not having a crazy obsession that prevents you from living a normal life?
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Been reading Oprah Magazine much?
or the blogsphere equivalent
I dont get it.
http://www.lisaescott.com/2009/07/15/invasion-sanity-snatchers
http://barbarany_9.blogspot.com/2007/10/why-not-everyone-can-just-move-on-or.html
as a DV counselor this is one of the most abusive, invalidating and disgusting things I have ever read. I used to like this blog… not any more. If you really feel this way, take me – a victim with permanent PTSD issues – off your blog roll at your earliest convenience.
A relationship with a psychopathic man is not like any other failed relationship. The women who loved psychopaths are not just bitter women scorned. It is simply not possible to have a relationship with a psychopath and not be harmed and damaged to a significant degree.
The medical side effects of post traumatic stress disorder that many of the women developed from the relationship (as well as other acute stress disorders) will long manifest in her body. Medical side effects that continue on, long after the psychopath has left.
- Sandra Brown, MA
http://thestumblingblock.wordpress.com/2007/12/09/she-claims-this-man-ywl-hurt-her-hurt-read-on/
Obviously, you have never experienced a relationship with a narcissist. You should stick to writing about what you know.
First I guess I really wonder why you even waste your time writing such rubbish? Confusing Personality Disorder with that of Narcissistic Personality Disorder is bad enough. What you described “There are easy ways to identify a Narcissist. A Narcissist in the early stages of a relationship is really into you.” is really just the Cluster B Disorder i.e. traits. Or did you know that? But let’s get back to NPD that’s what you are attempting to explain right?
Whenever a writer attempts to miniature the long term affect whenever anyone gets involved with someone that suffers from a Personality Disorder is spreading misinformation and “half” truths. It also revictimized the victim and allows the abuser no personal responsibility for his or her own actions. Your vain attempt to make light of a public and social problem of this presently know problem in our sociality today, is in my opinion very “Narcissistic” on your part.
As the victim of your narcissistic blog comments, I am now suffering from MAYPA or Man Are You People Annoying. I’m a shattered wreck and I may never be the same again. Not.
You’re not victims. You’re people who have chosen to create an entire identity based on some guy who had cybersex with you. My response is Get a Life.
Being attacked, physically abused makes you a victim. Being in a bad relationship does not make you a victim. Grow up and get over it. Or just label everyone who points out the common sense solution to you a narcissist, which you people misuse the way that Salem screamed everyone was a witch, while pretending you’re using legitimate terminology.
Only when they take you out to the streets and burn you does it really become a “witch hunt”.
You are an egotistical, ignorant narcissist and not worth anybody’s time. Why don’t you get a life? The only type of person who would write something like this is the very same type of predator that we are trying to get away from.
That’s right, I’m a narcissist
New definition of Narcissist = Someone who thinks you’re all a bloody pack of self-centered self-involved idiots
I will take the word of a qualified psychologist or psychiatrist over your dismissive, minimizing bullpocky.
http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/2007/06/ahjust-get-life.html
http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com/2007/02/invalidation-invalidation-is-to-reject.html
http://www.narcissisticabuse.com/victim.html
There’s no shame in being a victim – there IS shame in being an abuser who uses their blog to further abuse. I have to wonder why we victims bother you so much? Could you actually have a conscience?
That’s awesome, I now know I am in fact a narcissist thanks.
Everyone is a narcissist! Except me! me! me! me!
Also Ted Danson, for some reason.
Leave victims alone!
Wow, I’m not necessarily impressed by the blog, but the comments so far are sniveling and whiny. It’s a joke! Get a freakin’ life and don’t take it personally because the person is a smarta$$.
The whole point about a narcassistic relationship is the fact that once the wife cannot supply the narcassist with perpetual praise he tires to obtain it from other sources – usually other women. Because the man is usually so charming to other women (not to his wife) they fall for him. However, in my case my husband did not want to leave and was being pressured to do so and got scared about taking up permanently with someone else. In order to get out of the second relationship he decided to make up a story that I was crazy and needed to be put away in a mental hospital for 10 days. This gave him the ammunition with friends, family and lovers that he couldn’t leave because his wife was sick! ! In the State of New York it seems that all you have to do iis call the mental hospital and then they will admit someone without any prior problems and not even on the advice of a doctor, to their facility. Once there your husband can twist your wrists to make you sign yourself in and there you stay until he decides to negotiate to get you out! How disgusting is that narcassist and his female companions.
People living with narcassists need to leave and don’t look back.
I don’t even know how I stumbled upon this blog at all….thanks to everyone for successfully distracting me for a while on this Friday morning at work.
Helping people waste time is what we do best