Jewschool’s Resident Whiner or Kvetcher continues to offer plenty of entertainment with his obsessive deranged belief that the Baal Tesuvah movement is a way to create a permanent underclass to serve their frum overlords by picking cotton and strumming on their banjos at the plantation. Crazy, yes. Entertaining, also yes.
Ben Niddah is his latest whine. Now there’s an endless list of citations from Gedolim which say that we do not pay attention to Ben Niddah. I’m sure there’s people in the Haredi world who do. There’s also people in the Haredi world who care a whole lot about your color tablecloth and won’t marry you unless you’re related to a Rebbische family. There’s people in the Haredi world who are just plain nuts. Most of them won’t marry Baal Tesuvahs. Most of them won’t marry Modern Orthodox, Chassidim or 90 percent of other Haredim either.
Now in his latest nutty post, the Kvetcher claims Rabbi Avi Shafran was “trying to minimize the concerns of ben niddahism I raised”, even though Rabbi Shafran’s article was boilerplate “It’s Great When Jews Return to Judaism” stuff that has nothing to do with Kvetcher. But it’s typical of paranoid people to believe everyone is conspiring against them.
In complete desperation Kvetcher tries to cite Parshablog’s Rabbi Josh Waxman as supporting his position. The problem is that Parshablog’s post is on Non-Halachic Pegam. Or in plain English, prejudice with no actual legitimacy… while Kvetcher is trying to argue that this is an actual halachic issue that creates a barrier in the frum world.
The halachic reality is that ben niddah is not a real factor. Will some people be prejudiced against a BT over that? Sure, there are also people who will be prejudiced against a FFB in a kippah serugah or anyone whose haskafah or background varies from theirs in the least. There’s a name for them, narrowminded jackasses. But so what?
Anywhere you go, in any community of any religion or non-religion, you will find cliques. You will find people who even though you moved to the neighborhood and paid your dues and attend their church\synagogue\temple of boogalooga don’t like you, don’t want you in their house and don’t want you marrying their children. That’s life and you can’t get away from it no matter where you go.
Yes all BT’s and Gerim should be told honestly, sooner or later you’ll run into some jackasses. Every religion has them and G-d didn’t short us when it came to our share of idiots, numbskulls, fanatics and people you just want to kick in the head after five minutes of knowing them. We probably should kick them out but since they all form their own little cliques, they save us the trouble of doing it. Welcome to the club and yes… we hate them as much as you do.